How to be more Confident

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If you want to get over the continual fear of making errors or taking the wrong decisions or screwing up when you meet your other half, then you need to build in a few confidence hacks that will become automatic after some time and you will be amazed at the results.

Here are 3 confidence hacks that have always worked for me.

“Low self-confidence isn’t a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered-just like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better.” – Barrie Davenport

1. Boost your own self confidence first.

Nothing worse than getting into the failure rut. This usually happens after an obstacle or setback and that pessimism can become permanent. In order for that not to happen, you have to:-

  • write down your achievements so far
  • write down your brilliant qualities
  • write down everything you should be grateful for
  • practice a few starters when imagining a conversation
  • practice doing this with the people you know so that it becomes second nature.

Just in case you thought all this gratitude drivel was nonsense, look at this infographic. Cuts down on stress and helps you to become better at problem solving.

2. Your positive thoughts are the way to go

Just think for a moment about Helen Keller who was the first deaf and blind person to get a degree!

“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” – Helen Keller

3. Get on the positive thoughts track

“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” – Helen Keller

Helen Keller was the first deaf and blind person in the US to gain a degree and she obviously used a lot of positive thinking to help her achieve that amazing feat.

So, why positive thoughts and not negative ones? Negative thinking may be useful when imagining failure scenarios, threats, and obstacles. Once you get on a negative streak, your brain filters out everything else and you only think of failure. The human brain is wired to think of problems and fears, perhaps because of an anthropological necessity to cope with harsh and hostile environments.

The best solution is to build on positive thoughts. Here are some practical tips to do just that:

  • Kick off the negative thoughts from your playing field and try to stop them muscling in on the action.
  • Repeat to yourself that you can succeed, keep an image of your past accomplishments in your head.
  • Stop fantasizing (too much!) about your imagined success. This can hinder your progress!
  • Come to terms with your obstacles and repeat to yourself that you know what they are and you are prepared to overcome them. You know that you planned for them and that there may be roadblocks. But you are well equipped for those.

 

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